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2001-04-27 - 3:38 p.m. I am 26 years old. I live in the most talked about city in the world - New York. I'm a pretty girl, outgoing, funny, smart, confident. And I'm single. And I know I'm not the only one. The funny thing about New York is that everyone wants to be here - it's the capital of the world for God's sake, right? But is it? New York City is a very strange place to live in as a single person - man or woman. As a woman, I obviously cannot speak for men, so I will talk about what I know. I know that I've been here for going on four years, I've dated, I've gone to the bars, I've gone to the dance clubs, I've been on the Internet dating scene. And I'm single. There isn't a guarantee in life that we will all meet "the one" - hell, I gave up on "the one" after he cheated on me. But "A one" would be nice, right? I don't claim to be a dating expert. I'm just me. A bit about me is probably necessary right now. I'm blond (was born blond, but as many blondes know, once you get to your 20's, you have to budget for high/low lights to keep your "natural" color), and I'm six feet tall. I get noticed. I hate getting noticed. What is it about New York City that makes us all single people miserable when it edges onto Wednesday night, and we have no plans for the weekend? Is it because we feel that we "should" be having fun, our social calendars "should" be filled BECAUSE we're New York City? I have two favorite TV shows - "The Simpsons" and "Sex and the City". I won't go into why I love the Simpsons now, but as for "Sex and the City," I love it for two reasons: 1. It's about New York City single life 2. The women on it are older than me, so I technically can't claim to be that desperate…yet. While the data from the 2000 census isn't published yet, I know there are a lot of men out there in the tri-state area. Now, who those men are is another story. As there are freaky women, there are freaky men. But the laws of probability would prove that being a single woman in New York is odd. But it's not. I have many female friends who are single-wonderful, beautiful, confident women who are single. Single and looking. I refuse to believe that it's the "looking" part of equation that deems us untouchable. The male friends that I have don't understand why I don't date as much as I do. "You can walk into a bar and get a date like (insert snapping finger) that". Yes. A woman can go into pretty much any bar in NYC and by acting a certain way, laughing *just* enough, appearing to have drunken a "bit too much", and walk out with a man that will assure that her vibrator will not be used that night. Woo-fucking-hoo. Now, there is something to be said for the "just for sex" thing. But, if you're over that, then what do you do? What do you do in New York City if you are single?
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